Frequently Asked Questions
Here are some of our most commonly asked questions. Please contact us if you have one that isn't on the list that you'd like answered.
How much does the weekend cost?
The cost for the Nazareth weekend is $295 per couple and includes separate overnight accommodations for men and women, meals, and weekend materials. The cost for the commuter weekend at Holy Apostles is $100 and includes meals and weekend materials. Our Engaged Encounter team is all volunteer, so these fees cover our direct costs including registration, food, facility and materials. A deposit of ½ of the weekend cost is non-refundable, and helps cover our prepaid costs for supplies, food and facility space. If you need to change the date of your reserved weekend, the complete deposit is transferable to the new weekend. Scholarships to assist in covering the weekend costs are available, please contact us if assistance is needed.
When do we have to show up on Friday evening?
Check-in for the Nazareth weekend starts at 7:00pm. We start promptly at 8:00pm. The commuter weekend check-in begins at 7:30am Saturday morning. If you know you are going to be late, please work out arrangements with the Registration Couple prior to the weekend. If you are unexpectedly detained the day the weekend begins, please call the registration couple or Nazareth Retreat Center (208) 375-2932 and leave a message for the team couples. Your position is secure and we will get you settled in as soon as you arrive.
What if we're already married?
What if you've been married for less than two years, attending a CEE weekend is still very helpful to your marriage. If you have been married for two or more years, we suggest you look into attending a Marriage Encounter weekend.Why should we go on a weekend? Our motto is a "A wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime." Think of all the preparation you have done for your career or job. Most us spend years studying or learning. Think of the preparation taken for your wedding day. Most people spend months planning and many dollars preparing for their wedding. But how much time and effort do we spend preparing for what we hope will last 50 or 60 years – our marriage? Ask yourself this question, "Am I willing to spend 44 hours devoted to hearing ideas and learning skills that will help to make my marriage the best it can be?"
When can we leave on Sunday?
For the Nazareth weekend we ask you to plan on staying at the Center until the weekend completes, around 2:30pm Sunday afternoon. For the commuter weekend, please plan to stay until the weekend completes, around 3:30pm Sunday afternoon. If this is a problem, please let the registration couple know before the weekend to make arrangements.
Do we have to stay at the Center?
Yes - we need you to stay at the Center during the weekend to facilitate the smooth running of our program.How soon before the wedding should we attend our weekend? We recommend the "earlier the better". As soon as you are engaged, or even considering engagement that is the right time to attend a weekend. By attending early you can discover areas of growth necessary in your relationship, determine if engagement and marriage is right for you at this time (before becoming too invested in the wedding preparations), and avoid the last minute hassles of attending a weekend while trying to do everything else your wedding day entails.
Do we have to be Catholic?
No - Even though this is a Catholic Engaged Encounter, we welcome couples of all faith expressions. We are not going to try to convert you or pressure you in anyway. The presenting teams share from their own experiences and encourage all couples to explore their faith, working to build a couple faith together.
How do you handle Cohabitation?
We are not here to judge couples currently cohabitating, we are here to help all couples preparing for marriage. We present the churches view on marriage and encourage all couples to openly share their feelings on this and all other topics facing today's married couples.
Do we have to stay for the entire weekend?
Yes. If you arrive late or leave early you will miss important parts of the weekend experience, and we will not be able to give you your weekend certificate, which verifies your attendance.
Do we have to be officially engaged?
Formal engagement is not necessary; a couple need only to be seriously thinking marriage ... You will be stimulated to discuss privately with each other all aspects of your relationship.
Do we have to share with the group?
No - The weekend is for you and your fiancé to share with each other. You will not be required to share with the group at all. Out of our eighteen presentations, only three involved the opportunity to share openly with the group - one being just a short introduction ("Hi, I'm Bob and this is my fiancé Karen."), another involving a small group discussion followed by each group reporting its findings back to the whole group, and the third being an open discussion between the engaged couples, with the presenting couples and the priest or deacon only moderating when needed. This does not mean that you won't have the opportunity to meet the other couple and form relationships.
Will dinner be served on Friday evening?
No, dinner will not be served on Friday. On Saturday, three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) will be served. On Sunday, breakfast and lunch will be served.
What should we bring to the weekend?
For the Nazareth weekend, please be sure to bring the following items with you: • Comfortable casual clothing • Toiletries, medicines and other personal items • A snack and drink (e.g., soft drink, juice, water) to place on the shared snack table which will be available in the conference room • Any snack or drink items for your own personal consumption.
For the commuter weekend, please dress comfortably and bring a snack to share with the group.